HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE

                                HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE...

To live is to enjoy. To enjoy is to have fun with people and things around. To have fun is to be blessed with quality people in your life.

To be a quality person is to…….????

It goes in a different way for each and every individual. So talking about how a quality person is made. They say culture, discipline, manners, etiquettes and bla bla bla is required. But you cannot teach a grown up person to change his habits and act according to the society just because the society thinks that he lacks discipline in him.

For me a quality person is born from a child. The term quality person does not really exist for me even though I am mentioning it. Every human being has got a child inside him till his last breath. So to get a quality person, the child needs to be taught nicely and wisely.

Children are innocent as they behave. We grown ups judge them to be correct or incorrect. Being correct gives a pat on his back and incorrectness leads to punishment. For us punishment is a way to improve the child but you never know what impact does your deeds make on the child’s mind which forces him to shed tears. 

The two faces of coins is applicable to everything that breaths on this planet.Children never have the phrase 'Being Judgmental' in their dictionaries . They do what they feel is correct in spite of caring whether it's good or bad because good and bad things never exist for them.

Elders teach them to be judgmental. We can’t and shouldn’t judge a child to be  spoil or a sorted one. It has nothing to do with how they are.

If a child behaves in a good way then parents have taught him. But if he behaves like a brat then except the parents, the whole universe is responsible for it, Why so?

I feel children learn through whatever they see and they try doing it by themselves. If they like it, they do it again. If they don’t, it ends at that particular point.

We say kids now a days are not active. They are more into video games and all the rubbish stuff which is ruining them. In earlier days , they used to stay connected with the nature. I don’t think it’s a kid’s choice. Technology is not being developed by kids. We elders do it and if we want them to be physically fit then why the hell on Earth are this video games and all the entertainment gadgets designed for them?  Kids prefer playing cricket on a video game rather than pulling up his socks and running towards the ground. In villages I still see kids enjoying with stuff which are really worth fun. May be they aren’t rich enough to afford the sophisticated fun stuff which other people do. If this is the thing then being poor is beneficial.

Playing out makes your clothes dirty….

Playing out makes you sick….

It’s too hot to go out…..

It’s raining. Stay at home….

It’s too cold. U will catch fever…

Such are the things parents tell and still we say that kids are responsible.

I guess God forgot to make a few more seasons according to the humans comfort zone.

There are kids who are extremely active which is sometimes not required, kids who behave like a sloth, kids who can’t express themselves, kids who are multi-talented, kids who are indulged in bad activities  and even kids who stay confused all the time.

All this things are happening to a kid because of relations.

NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THE REASON…

WHY WE ALL MEET IN THIS JOURNEY OF LIFE!!

WE MAY NOT BE RELATED BY BLOOD.

WE MAY NOT KNOW EACH OTHER FROM THE BEGINNING.

BUT GOD PUTS US TOGETHER TO BUILD WONDERFUL RELATIONS BY HEART!!

Having relations with people around is as important as breathing. But with what sort of people this relations are made is completely our choice.

There is a kid who doesn’t listen to his parents, starts rolling on the floor for everything he wants, sometimes even goes violent if his demand isn’t fulfilled.

On the other hand there is  a kid who is orphan and doesn’t know how to tackle with situations. May be he chooses to be a beggar and get something to eat or else he chooses to be a slave of someone and somehow manage to earn his bread and butter, lastly may be he chooses to be a thief and earn in an easy way.

For a matter of fact, this choices are not made by the kid but the surrounding asks him to decide it. Whatever he sees is what he cultivates in him.

If a child acts like a brat then I say it is not necessary to fulfill each and every demand of a child by his parents. Some things are good if they are not provided at the incorrect time.

A child may feel superior to others because of some factors. The other poor ones may feel inferior to the rest. Ignoring children, elders should learn that money, standard and status are not the parameters to decides your superiority or inferiority.

KALAM once said “DON’T EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN TO BE RICH. EDUCATE THEM TO BE HAPPY. SO THEY KNOW THE VALUE OF THINGS,NOT THE PRICE.”

I feel elders should be educated enough to know how to educate their children.

There are also such people who may be very rich but equally down to earth at the same time. We can notice their generosity by the way their kids behave.

Children behave in a vicious way, hit their parents if required and we hit them back for misbehaving.

Stop hitting your wives at your home and may be children won’t copy you.

There is a child who isn’t so good with the books and may be fond of some other things. May be the kid who is blessed with a potential of being master of all trades. But for us it is never necessary to explore his talent because talent is your hobby for your entertainment. Only books can be the only companion that would bring money in your pocket when you grow up.

Getting trapped between the confusion of talent and text books the child may decide to give up. I feel glad Michael Jackson’s father never forced him to be a doctor. Thanks to the very great INDIAN MENTALITY for killing so many talents daily.

Sex is something we discover as our hormones develop naturally.

Now a days hormones are developed artificially by medicines like social media, porn sites and all the shit happening around.

Little kids feel horny, get erections ,use their hands as dick raisers and feel attracted for curves. At the age when they should learn how to be a good person, they move towards lust. The ones who can’t control it may take the major steps and attempt for rapes. Even the rapes can’t be justified now a days. They call it FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. How would a 14 year old boy or girl know what benefit he/she is supposed  to get from a so called friend. If they are caught doing such stuff, we blame their mentality.

EYES see and MIND cultivates what is instructed by the BRAIN.

Do not force their eyes to see this shit and their brains won’t misguide their minds.

Stop doing shit and you won’t blame the kids.

If a grown up person talks to another grown up, they can easily make an eye contact. If a kid wants to do so then he has to raise his head high.

Try to get down on your knees and watch the things as he does. If you raise your head normally then you see the sky. If a kid does so, he sees you. If you desire to touch the sky then for a child, you are his sky and your shadow covers him 24*7.

So if you want to have a quality person then firstly try to be a quality human being.

Shit happens! It is totally acceptable.

Life is useless if mistakes aren’t done but you become the culprit if you never take efforts to improvise yourself.

So next time if a kid does something wrong then don’t blame him, blame yourself.

Because HE IS NOT RESPONSIBLE…… YOU ARE.

                                                                                                 NEHA GORE